Attn. Mothers of Boys: Help?
Aug. 26th, 2010 01:34 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
averygoodun42How, how do you cope with gun/battle mania? How?
Babe is a good kid, but whenever he senses my energy is low, he follows me around. He entertains himself, since I don't have the energy to entertain him, but with wars.
Pewpewpewpewpewpewpewpewpewpew! go the guns, blasters, phasers, whatnot. Bhush! go the bombs and missiles. Bang go the nuclear bombs. And always, always, there's the narrative about how the rebels are shooting, bombarding, killing the bad guys (or vice versa). How they're winning. And always, always, always, he wants me to listen. To approve.
But I don't.
I hate war games. I didn't mind them as a kid, though I never found them all that interesting, but as an adult and a mother, I hate them.
I tolerate them, to a large degree, out of necessity. He's a boy, boys are wired differently. They go through these phases. But... he follows me around with them! And I just don't have the energy to play with him or fight to get him outside.
So, mothers of boys, how did you survive this? How did they survive? Because asking nicely doesn't stop the onslaught; it just defers it.
Babe is a good kid, but whenever he senses my energy is low, he follows me around. He entertains himself, since I don't have the energy to entertain him, but with wars.
Pewpewpewpewpewpewpewpewpewpew! go the guns, blasters, phasers, whatnot. Bhush! go the bombs and missiles. Bang go the nuclear bombs. And always, always, there's the narrative about how the rebels are shooting, bombarding, killing the bad guys (or vice versa). How they're winning. And always, always, always, he wants me to listen. To approve.
But I don't.
I hate war games. I didn't mind them as a kid, though I never found them all that interesting, but as an adult and a mother, I hate them.
I tolerate them, to a large degree, out of necessity. He's a boy, boys are wired differently. They go through these phases. But... he follows me around with them! And I just don't have the energy to play with him or fight to get him outside.
So, mothers of boys, how did you survive this? How did they survive? Because asking nicely doesn't stop the onslaught; it just defers it.
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Date: 2010-08-26 06:49 pm (UTC)He doesn't have toy guns. It's all drawn out. On paper. (Or made with tinker toys.) Just with sound effects. Lots and lots of sound effects.
And honestly, I do not have energy to spare for patience (or sitting upright, for that matter), let alone parenting right now. Tacit approval or not.
My problem is that he doesn't do this when I'm well. He only does this when I am too weak to do anything about it.