A Slytherin's Guide to Morals (excerpt)
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From the section: Raising Children
...Having introduced the topic "Life Is Not Fair", we can now move forward in several ways. First, we must explore the logical conclusion that if life is not fair, then life is mutable and, to a degree, malleable.
Since your child is of eminent importance to you, you will of course impart strategies to successfully navigate through the world in a way that will optimize their efforts at success. Thus, you will need to take into account the reigning cultures of your area.
"Good" and "Bad" behaviors should be encouraged and discouraged, respectively, with the reasons why provided in language the child will understand.
For example,
"If you hit the child who cut in front of you in line, you will be punished and they will get away with their transgressions. If you object vocally instead, then, perhaps, they will be punished for their bad behavior."
Of course, furthering this example, it would also be best to reiterate to your child that they risk being labeled a "tattletale" and be shunned by their peers if they object too strenuously or repeatedly to mild offenses. Instead, focus their attention on the benefits of accrued favors of peers by turning a blind eye.
*iz bad mom*
...Having introduced the topic "Life Is Not Fair", we can now move forward in several ways. First, we must explore the logical conclusion that if life is not fair, then life is mutable and, to a degree, malleable.
Since your child is of eminent importance to you, you will of course impart strategies to successfully navigate through the world in a way that will optimize their efforts at success. Thus, you will need to take into account the reigning cultures of your area.
"Good" and "Bad" behaviors should be encouraged and discouraged, respectively, with the reasons why provided in language the child will understand.
For example,
"If you hit the child who cut in front of you in line, you will be punished and they will get away with their transgressions. If you object vocally instead, then, perhaps, they will be punished for their bad behavior."
Of course, furthering this example, it would also be best to reiterate to your child that they risk being labeled a "tattletale" and be shunned by their peers if they object too strenuously or repeatedly to mild offenses. Instead, focus their attention on the benefits of accrued favors of peers by turning a blind eye.
*iz bad mom*
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